As seen in the Dayton Daily News on July 4, 2015.
Have you ever gone to a friend’s house to help her get organized and instead you end up walking in circles while nothing gets done?
Following these simple tips will help you get better results.
Bring some supplies to make the day go smoothly. Sharpie markers, cardboard boxes, trash bags and plastic bins are great for sorting and donating.
Take your own snacks and drinks, so your friend can focus on herself, not your needs.
Once you arrive, your job is to support her, which means you become a servant for the day. In my work as an organizer, I’ve noticed that people have a hard time letting you care for them. Tell your friend to take advantage of the personal assistance you are offering.
It’s important to remember this is her space and her belongings. People get attached to possessions for many reasons and you need to respect this. Don’t give your opinion unless you are asked.
As you tour the spaces that need to be organized, listen to what your friend says. You’ll get an idea on where you should get started.
She may show you an area that bothers her the most. Organizing this space will make her feel better instantly, which will energize her to continue in other areas.
Maybe there’s an area where she can easily let go of things. Starting here may give her the confidence she needs to let go of more difficult items later.
Sometimes, there is an area that will have the most impact on everyone who lives in the home. Working there may encourage others to support her after you leave.
Once the space is decided, you become what I call the ‘runner,’ while your friend is the decision maker.
Carry donations to her car, haul items to the trash and recycle bins, transfer items to other rooms to reserve her energy.
Let her sit down and bring things to her, get take-out for lunch and text pictures of unwanted items to people who may have an interest in taking them.
Do whatever you can to save your friend’s energy, so she can focus on making decisions.
Showing someone your faults and making decisions can be emotionally draining. Show compassion, be patient and don’t pass judgment.
Not everyone is capable of parting with things as quickly as you can. Helping your friend is a kind gesture, so end on a positive note. Be her cheerleader, then walk away happy knowing you made a difference, even if it’s just a small change.